2009.
The year that gave nothing but courage.
The year that took nothing but time.
The fabulous year that taught us to navigate through the toughest times and land on the safe zone called Confidence.
The wonderful year that made apex people realize they are still human and gave chance for underdogs to Perform.
The marvelous year that gave a chance to everyone for Self realization.
On a personal note:
In 2009 I’ve realized Happiness is like the Sky and both Pleasures and Disappointments are passing clouds. So I started to live in the Sky of Happiness.
One thing that can help me stay in that position is my relationships. 2009 taught me the importance of Good Relationships. So I took a stand to announce 2010 as the “Year of Relationships”.
I welcome 2010 with a promise to keep up all the relationships.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Ecology Vs Economy
Ecology is the relationships between organisms (both flora and fauna) with their environments.
Economy is the management of resources like money, materials, labor etc.
By definition they do not have any thing in common and cannot be compared or negated with each other. But these are the two most important things in human existence. They live in the ecology and live with the economy. Ecology is the existing reality where as economy is the virtual reality.
If you take ecology as a system then Humans, flora, animals, atmosphere etc are subsystems. But economy is the subsystem of Humans making Economy the Super- Subsystem of Ecology.
The humans with all their intelligence and smartness are growing economy. They are working hard, taking all the stress, bearing all the tensions to increase the economy. The super subsystem namely economy is growing leaps and bounds and in the process eradicating other subsystems like flora, atmosphere, animals etc.
Humans think they are the most intelligent creatures on the planet and that is the reason they have created super-subsystems like economy, trade, marriage system, internet etc which make their lives easy. All these increased the Greed, Selfishness, Love/Hatred etc which are actually eradicating the Ecology in which they are living. But they are most foolish creatures who lost control of themselves and became slaves to the super-subsystems which were created by them. They want to earn more and more money for their off springs, they want to have all the luxury for their lives and so they start to eradicate forests, dig and suck minerals from earth, eat all the available forms of life like vegetation, fish and all sort of animals and bugs.
In the whole process they forgot the slogan with which the whole ecology survives “Live and Let Live”. The humans being smart have a responsibility towards the ecology but with the super-subsystems they have created, they became responsible for the destruction of the same ecology.
If you observe, Humans are the only animals which destroy ecology and no other living organism is responsible for this. Humans think they are the masters of all the living beings but in reality they are the slaves of their own creations.
Economy is the management of resources like money, materials, labor etc.
By definition they do not have any thing in common and cannot be compared or negated with each other. But these are the two most important things in human existence. They live in the ecology and live with the economy. Ecology is the existing reality where as economy is the virtual reality.
If you take ecology as a system then Humans, flora, animals, atmosphere etc are subsystems. But economy is the subsystem of Humans making Economy the Super- Subsystem of Ecology.
The humans with all their intelligence and smartness are growing economy. They are working hard, taking all the stress, bearing all the tensions to increase the economy. The super subsystem namely economy is growing leaps and bounds and in the process eradicating other subsystems like flora, atmosphere, animals etc.
Humans think they are the most intelligent creatures on the planet and that is the reason they have created super-subsystems like economy, trade, marriage system, internet etc which make their lives easy. All these increased the Greed, Selfishness, Love/Hatred etc which are actually eradicating the Ecology in which they are living. But they are most foolish creatures who lost control of themselves and became slaves to the super-subsystems which were created by them. They want to earn more and more money for their off springs, they want to have all the luxury for their lives and so they start to eradicate forests, dig and suck minerals from earth, eat all the available forms of life like vegetation, fish and all sort of animals and bugs.
In the whole process they forgot the slogan with which the whole ecology survives “Live and Let Live”. The humans being smart have a responsibility towards the ecology but with the super-subsystems they have created, they became responsible for the destruction of the same ecology.
If you observe, Humans are the only animals which destroy ecology and no other living organism is responsible for this. Humans think they are the masters of all the living beings but in reality they are the slaves of their own creations.
Monday, November 2, 2009
A COUP TO HAPPINESS
We were like computer hardware with basic software called instincts when we were born. We were very happy with no fear, no problems, no obligations etc.
Over a period of time our parents, family and the society inculcates software into our systems. This software is written with so many programs. The programs like ‘you shouldn’t eat chocolates’ to ‘respect your elders’ to ‘work hard to become successful’ to ‘set up a goal’ to ‘believe in God’ to ‘help others’ to ‘earn money to stay happily in future’ to what not.
Over and above you start to write programs on the platforms created by others like: ‘I will be so strong from today no matter what may come I will protect my family in the future’ to ‘I will not help the guy for his whole life who didn’t help me once’ to ‘I will marry a girl who is 100 times better than the girl who rejected my love’ to ‘I will go to temple every Thursday’ to what not.
All these programs in reality create huge conflicts and unhappiness.
You will set up a goal in your life and strive hard to achieve that with all the programs that are present with you. If a result is not as desired, a conflict starts and you create so many programs to combat others. You expect your wife to behave in some manner and when it doesn’t happen you write programs to combat the conflict.
Lot of conflicts come into picture with all the programs that you have created. All these conflicts make you loose your happiness. You might be getting pleasure out of small achievements but not continuous state of happiness that you were born with.
The simple coup to happiness is to remove the software completely.
Create your new software all by yourself in the way you want with all the understanding you have and follow your instincts.
Over a period of time our parents, family and the society inculcates software into our systems. This software is written with so many programs. The programs like ‘you shouldn’t eat chocolates’ to ‘respect your elders’ to ‘work hard to become successful’ to ‘set up a goal’ to ‘believe in God’ to ‘help others’ to ‘earn money to stay happily in future’ to what not.
Over and above you start to write programs on the platforms created by others like: ‘I will be so strong from today no matter what may come I will protect my family in the future’ to ‘I will not help the guy for his whole life who didn’t help me once’ to ‘I will marry a girl who is 100 times better than the girl who rejected my love’ to ‘I will go to temple every Thursday’ to what not.
All these programs in reality create huge conflicts and unhappiness.
You will set up a goal in your life and strive hard to achieve that with all the programs that are present with you. If a result is not as desired, a conflict starts and you create so many programs to combat others. You expect your wife to behave in some manner and when it doesn’t happen you write programs to combat the conflict.
Lot of conflicts come into picture with all the programs that you have created. All these conflicts make you loose your happiness. You might be getting pleasure out of small achievements but not continuous state of happiness that you were born with.
The simple coup to happiness is to remove the software completely.
Create your new software all by yourself in the way you want with all the understanding you have and follow your instincts.
LUST AT FIRST SIGHT
With all the intensity of his feeling towards her in his eyes, he said:
“I Lust You”.
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From the past few weeks he is observing her in their office. For the first time when he saw her, he observed only her eyes. She’s got those beautiful and big eyes that can attract anyone. Fortunately she’s got very beautiful nose, ears, lips and her fair toned skin makes her the most beautiful girl in their office. Just her eyes can turn many eyeballs towards her. The beauty grew over him after some time and his feeling towards her reached maximum.
With all the intensity of his feeling towards her in his eyes, he said:
“I Lust You”.
She said “Excuse me!!!” with an expression of confusion.
He repeated “I Lust You”.
She was startled at first but came to her senses immediately and laughed at his proposal. Her beauty might have attracted so many and at least few of them have expressed their feeling. But this proposal has confused her.
She said “If you like some one you should either say ‘I Like You’ or ‘I Love You’, but what is this?”
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The communication is very clear in ‘I Lust You’. Where as what do you mean by ‘I Love You’.
You love your mother, your country, your bike and what not.
Her beauty aroused a feeling in him which is definitely Lust. This lust makes him think about her all the time, makes him to stay with her all the time and makes him to unite with her physically.
You love your mother but it doesn’t arouse a feeling to stay with her all the time. You love your country but never think about it and of course you never want to unite physically with any object that you love.
Love is very subjective but lust is very pure.
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When he first saw her, she was in a tight Black Jeans and Pink T-shirt. Her dress elevated all her curves and of course she has great body structure. She has got a very normal face but her dressing made him attracted to her. He some how managed to make friends with her. They became very close over a period of time.
One fine night he finally expressed:
“I wanna make lust to you”.
She reacted very violently. She caught hold of his collar and started beating him left and right. She shouted “I was expecting something precious called Love and you have this bad opinion of Lust on me.”
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Somehow our ancestors made a blunder by projecting Lust as a bad thing.
Lust is as good a feeling as Love, Hatred, Pity, Mercy etc. If you think these feelings are very common in people, then Lust obviously should be included in the list. Lust is a feeling which Provo Cates you to have sex. You may be having a lot of friends whom you love, but you want to have sex with only with the ones you Lust. You may find sex appeal in different ways but definitely Lust should be there to enjoy sex. So our guy rightfully expressed “I wanna make lust to you”.
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He was waiting for his train on the platform. He observed a girl on the same platform who is watching him. She was an ordinary looking girl with an excellent sex appeal. When he was thinking whether her sex appeal is present in her ordinary looks, she started walking towards him. She stopped at him and asked:
“Do you believe in LUST AT FIRST SIGHT?”
“I Lust You”.
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From the past few weeks he is observing her in their office. For the first time when he saw her, he observed only her eyes. She’s got those beautiful and big eyes that can attract anyone. Fortunately she’s got very beautiful nose, ears, lips and her fair toned skin makes her the most beautiful girl in their office. Just her eyes can turn many eyeballs towards her. The beauty grew over him after some time and his feeling towards her reached maximum.
With all the intensity of his feeling towards her in his eyes, he said:
“I Lust You”.
She said “Excuse me!!!” with an expression of confusion.
He repeated “I Lust You”.
She was startled at first but came to her senses immediately and laughed at his proposal. Her beauty might have attracted so many and at least few of them have expressed their feeling. But this proposal has confused her.
She said “If you like some one you should either say ‘I Like You’ or ‘I Love You’, but what is this?”
*******************
The communication is very clear in ‘I Lust You’. Where as what do you mean by ‘I Love You’.
You love your mother, your country, your bike and what not.
Her beauty aroused a feeling in him which is definitely Lust. This lust makes him think about her all the time, makes him to stay with her all the time and makes him to unite with her physically.
You love your mother but it doesn’t arouse a feeling to stay with her all the time. You love your country but never think about it and of course you never want to unite physically with any object that you love.
Love is very subjective but lust is very pure.
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When he first saw her, she was in a tight Black Jeans and Pink T-shirt. Her dress elevated all her curves and of course she has great body structure. She has got a very normal face but her dressing made him attracted to her. He some how managed to make friends with her. They became very close over a period of time.
One fine night he finally expressed:
“I wanna make lust to you”.
She reacted very violently. She caught hold of his collar and started beating him left and right. She shouted “I was expecting something precious called Love and you have this bad opinion of Lust on me.”
********************
Somehow our ancestors made a blunder by projecting Lust as a bad thing.
Lust is as good a feeling as Love, Hatred, Pity, Mercy etc. If you think these feelings are very common in people, then Lust obviously should be included in the list. Lust is a feeling which Provo Cates you to have sex. You may be having a lot of friends whom you love, but you want to have sex with only with the ones you Lust. You may find sex appeal in different ways but definitely Lust should be there to enjoy sex. So our guy rightfully expressed “I wanna make lust to you”.
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He was waiting for his train on the platform. He observed a girl on the same platform who is watching him. She was an ordinary looking girl with an excellent sex appeal. When he was thinking whether her sex appeal is present in her ordinary looks, she started walking towards him. She stopped at him and asked:
“Do you believe in LUST AT FIRST SIGHT?”
Sunday, April 19, 2009
Response to Neo
Dear Naresh(Neo),
Thank you very much for your fabulous opinions. This is what I am really expecting from my friends.
Nothing in this world can be generalised and it varies from person to person. Whatever I am writing you take it as my opinion in this moment. I am not judging anyone and am not telling anything to do. Just take my opinions as a point of view, love them or criticize them, but think about them.
1."Just a one sided argument without any details. "
I personally feel arguments are a waste of time. When you start arguing, you start protecting your point of views which I dont want to do.
2."A man is bound to be attracted by women and vice-versa. This trait is already a given in human. "
If you add personality, character, behaviour, belief etc along with looks for our OUTWARD IMPRESSION, yes this is what Iam telling you is your strength. Use your strength to attract the mate by yourself.
What I am telling is not to give up your strength by making your parents or some other people responsible for what you have to do. You can do it for yourselves by your own strength.
My logic is "giving away strength is weakness".
3."So the weakness if it exists is not due to the lack of traits in male but due to the Outward-impression"
If people lack the traits( whatever you've said) they will become Gays. So when you accept that you dont have the outward-impression and accepting the strength of others for your journey in life is nothing but weakness. Every individual in this world will have their own strength in Outward-impression, find it, use it but never give it up.
So, this is the premise of my opinion.
4."But you cannot generalize the same. "
Yes, I totally accept.
5."I can only imagine now your views about marriage "
Please dont do that. They change everyday. Not only on marriage but on everything.
6."Why did you call that statement a "fact"? "
I absolutely miscommunicated by putting a word fact. Yes I do accept that it is wrong to quote 'fact'.
7."If you do whatever you want to do with your full heart and soul, then you will attain success"
This is the logic you have given yourself. I will show you hundreds and thousands of people who do whatever they want to do with their full heart and soul and never attained success.
"Doing what you want to do is success" is a continuous process. If you leave it in middle giving reasons, it is a failure. Leaving it in middle and still doing what you think you want to do then is what is success for me.
For eg: If you want to become a Doctor, you start studying for that. In the process, if someday you strongly believe you dont want to become a doctor but an actor. If you start trying for your new wish, you are still successful for me.
When you give reasons that studying doctor is difficult etc etc, then you are a failure.
Success for me is what you want to do and not forcing yourself for achieving something because of the logic you have given yourself.
The outcome is nowhere in your hands is what the poem says. I totally respect you from your words that you needn't take it for granted. I appreciate it. This is what Buddha says: ' You needn't believe anything just because somebody said it. You shouldn't believe untill you see it, hear it , feel it etc,. for yourself'
8."may be you will retire getting nothing.."
What if you retire getting nothing as long as you are happy for what you are and what you've been.
Finally, I am still in the process of understanding all these. That is the reason I started this blog. I will post so many topics in this process. your comments mean a lot to me.
Thank you veryyyyy muccccchhhhhhhhhh..........
Pradeep Varma
Thank you very much for your fabulous opinions. This is what I am really expecting from my friends.
Nothing in this world can be generalised and it varies from person to person. Whatever I am writing you take it as my opinion in this moment. I am not judging anyone and am not telling anything to do. Just take my opinions as a point of view, love them or criticize them, but think about them.
1."Just a one sided argument without any details. "
I personally feel arguments are a waste of time. When you start arguing, you start protecting your point of views which I dont want to do.
2."A man is bound to be attracted by women and vice-versa. This trait is already a given in human. "
If you add personality, character, behaviour, belief etc along with looks for our OUTWARD IMPRESSION, yes this is what Iam telling you is your strength. Use your strength to attract the mate by yourself.
What I am telling is not to give up your strength by making your parents or some other people responsible for what you have to do. You can do it for yourselves by your own strength.
My logic is "giving away strength is weakness".
3."So the weakness if it exists is not due to the lack of traits in male but due to the Outward-impression"
If people lack the traits( whatever you've said) they will become Gays. So when you accept that you dont have the outward-impression and accepting the strength of others for your journey in life is nothing but weakness. Every individual in this world will have their own strength in Outward-impression, find it, use it but never give it up.
So, this is the premise of my opinion.
4."But you cannot generalize the same. "
Yes, I totally accept.
5."I can only imagine now your views about marriage "
Please dont do that. They change everyday. Not only on marriage but on everything.
6."Why did you call that statement a "fact"? "
I absolutely miscommunicated by putting a word fact. Yes I do accept that it is wrong to quote 'fact'.
7."If you do whatever you want to do with your full heart and soul, then you will attain success"
This is the logic you have given yourself. I will show you hundreds and thousands of people who do whatever they want to do with their full heart and soul and never attained success.
"Doing what you want to do is success" is a continuous process. If you leave it in middle giving reasons, it is a failure. Leaving it in middle and still doing what you think you want to do then is what is success for me.
For eg: If you want to become a Doctor, you start studying for that. In the process, if someday you strongly believe you dont want to become a doctor but an actor. If you start trying for your new wish, you are still successful for me.
When you give reasons that studying doctor is difficult etc etc, then you are a failure.
Success for me is what you want to do and not forcing yourself for achieving something because of the logic you have given yourself.
The outcome is nowhere in your hands is what the poem says. I totally respect you from your words that you needn't take it for granted. I appreciate it. This is what Buddha says: ' You needn't believe anything just because somebody said it. You shouldn't believe untill you see it, hear it , feel it etc,. for yourself'
8."may be you will retire getting nothing.."
What if you retire getting nothing as long as you are happy for what you are and what you've been.
Finally, I am still in the process of understanding all these. That is the reason I started this blog. I will post so many topics in this process. your comments mean a lot to me.
Thank you veryyyyy muccccchhhhhhhhhh..........
Pradeep Varma
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Response to Comments (added new ones.....)
Thank you all for your Comments. The more you comment the much enlightened I am. So please do comment.
1) So, I earnestly feel that BEING SUCCESSFUL means BEING PURPOSE DRIVEN
Dear Kiran,
Thank you for your additions on my topic over Success. They are all true when you believe in the philosophy of Robin Sharma and others.
You are absolutely correct when you talk about GOAL SETTING, ACTION, PROCESS & JOURNEY. I personally think we should discuss about 'Purpose of Life' issue.
There is a philosophy in the same Sanskrit known as Soonyathvam which says nothing is important. You have to do nothing and be nothing to understand 'Nothing'. What you have to achieve in life is nothing but 'Nothing'.
Nihilism(Nihil in Latin means Nothing) also is of the same concept which believes that nothing has any importance and that life lacks Purpose.
I will write a blog completely on this Topic in the near future.
You are creating a Logic out of your life by saying 'what’s the use if it doesn’t fulfil the purpose'. And as i told you life doesn't listen to your fucking logic.
Its well and good as long as you are in calm waters, but when you are in a storm, the boat may take a turn and drift away from your goal. You will get frustated and cry aloud saying you have a purpose in life and you have to achieve it.
As long as you belive you can tilt the boat and drive it towards your goal, you are absolutely successful. You try to push it so hard but the boat may never turn. This doen't mean you are not successful because you dont know what will be the outcome of anything. You just have to do what you think is right for achieving what you want.
You are creating your logic by inventing a Purpose for your life. You say you have to do something to prove someone that you are the one. In order to fulfill your purpose you will give more reasons and more logic which will ultimately make your life complex. This will ultimately destroy your original state of being which is HAPPINESS. No matter what you do in life, you have to be in the original state of being called happiness. This comes when you dont compell life to act according to your logic of so called Purpose of Life.
Whenever you talk to a Successful Person:
He gives you logic why he is Successful.
Whenever you talk to an Unsucessful Person:
He gives you logic why he is not Successful.
But the fact here is both of them tried and they had their outcome. Then they are giving logic to the outcome which is bull-shit.
So dont listen to the logic they are giving because both of them are successful in doing whatever they want to do. They are giving a logic to the outcome which no body can ever know before hand.
What I mean to tell is both these people are Successful because they have done whatever they want to do. There are other people who never try to do what they want to do whom I call as UNSUCCESSFUL.
2) It'll better if u write a post on the topic 'Marriage' itself
Dear Harika
I think i shouldn't write a post on the topic 'Marriage' with my current state of mind. I am still thinking about it, whether we really need it or not. I can write topics 'history of Marriage in Indian culture' and 'Marriage in Western culture'.
These things will destroy our present understanding of marriage and you will be disturbed which I dont want now.
It will take some time for me to conclude and a write a topic. Whenever I come with the understanding I will definitely write it.
3) doing it for finding out a lifemate (not a mere mate) who will bound to you for eternity
Dear Kiran
Whether it is a mate or a life mate, find it yourself with your strength. A person without strength gives out Logic which I dont want you to do.
Coming to love marriage or arranged marriage, success of it is purely personal. You cannot comment on it.
Whatever you've said about love marriage might be true ten years before this date. The reason is people in Arranged marriage used to bind with each other because of their fear for society and the conditions were like that at that time.
Now the conditions are completely different and 'Nuclear Families' are the one to stay where more number of Arranged Marriages are going to fail from now on. This phenomena is already persistant.
4) talking about something without any logic isn't helping that in any way....
Dear Snigdha
The whole idea of this blog is to express myself so that people around me comment and help me to enlighten.
Thank you exactly for doing that.
For me enlightenment is to come out of all the reasons and logic we have given ourselves over generations.
All these things I am doing and this blog in particular is helping me a lot. This not helping me is what you thought is not the truth for me. This is actually helping me and you have given a logic or whatever you call it for yourself that this is not helping me.
See, this is the logic I am speaking about.
'Arranged marriage is a weakness' is a topic given to my thought process to attract viewers and their comments. Here the truth is Marriage and all the Why's and What's are the logics we have given. I am talking about all these logics to come out of these logics.
I dont know whether there is a logic in my thought process or not, all I know is I have to come out of all the logics we have given ourselves and come to a state of mind called NOTHING.
So this is my struggle to go there and all you people who are commenting are actually helping me.
P.S: I want you to comment on all my posts.
5) Confusing who.....
Dear Bharathi
I am not confusing anyone and am not trying for that because I am in a state of confusion and am thinking over that.
I am expressing all these just to get other point of views and so that I may come out of my confusions.
Dont expect me to give you the reasons in my Story named RYTHU BIDDA. This is just a story i've written from an inspiration i've quoted earier. I am just trying to write it as a Cinema Sript for a short movie.
Thank you very very much for your encouragement.
6) I would give a classic example which everyone can relate
Dear Prashanth
I will accept to the fact that you may many times cannot attract a particular person because of hell a lot of reasons. But if you say 'how many guys do you think can attract possible mates. And again I raise, Is attracting a person under one's control', this is absolutely I called Weakness.
As you've said, you will be attracted to so many possible mates. From all those can't you attract one. I'm not talking about attracting all those. If you say it's not in your control, you are absolutely accepting your weakness.
If you are not attracted to your mate or she towards you, why be a Couple.
I personally feel talking about 'Forcing Love' is bull shit.
I am very grateful to you for your time and value in your comment. I would expect the same from you everytime.
1) So, I earnestly feel that BEING SUCCESSFUL means BEING PURPOSE DRIVEN
Dear Kiran,
Thank you for your additions on my topic over Success. They are all true when you believe in the philosophy of Robin Sharma and others.
You are absolutely correct when you talk about GOAL SETTING, ACTION, PROCESS & JOURNEY. I personally think we should discuss about 'Purpose of Life' issue.
There is a philosophy in the same Sanskrit known as Soonyathvam which says nothing is important. You have to do nothing and be nothing to understand 'Nothing'. What you have to achieve in life is nothing but 'Nothing'.
Nihilism(Nihil in Latin means Nothing) also is of the same concept which believes that nothing has any importance and that life lacks Purpose.
I will write a blog completely on this Topic in the near future.
You are creating a Logic out of your life by saying 'what’s the use if it doesn’t fulfil the purpose'. And as i told you life doesn't listen to your fucking logic.
Its well and good as long as you are in calm waters, but when you are in a storm, the boat may take a turn and drift away from your goal. You will get frustated and cry aloud saying you have a purpose in life and you have to achieve it.
As long as you belive you can tilt the boat and drive it towards your goal, you are absolutely successful. You try to push it so hard but the boat may never turn. This doen't mean you are not successful because you dont know what will be the outcome of anything. You just have to do what you think is right for achieving what you want.
You are creating your logic by inventing a Purpose for your life. You say you have to do something to prove someone that you are the one. In order to fulfill your purpose you will give more reasons and more logic which will ultimately make your life complex. This will ultimately destroy your original state of being which is HAPPINESS. No matter what you do in life, you have to be in the original state of being called happiness. This comes when you dont compell life to act according to your logic of so called Purpose of Life.
Whenever you talk to a Successful Person:
He gives you logic why he is Successful.
Whenever you talk to an Unsucessful Person:
He gives you logic why he is not Successful.
But the fact here is both of them tried and they had their outcome. Then they are giving logic to the outcome which is bull-shit.
So dont listen to the logic they are giving because both of them are successful in doing whatever they want to do. They are giving a logic to the outcome which no body can ever know before hand.
What I mean to tell is both these people are Successful because they have done whatever they want to do. There are other people who never try to do what they want to do whom I call as UNSUCCESSFUL.
2) It'll better if u write a post on the topic 'Marriage' itself
Dear Harika
I think i shouldn't write a post on the topic 'Marriage' with my current state of mind. I am still thinking about it, whether we really need it or not. I can write topics 'history of Marriage in Indian culture' and 'Marriage in Western culture'.
These things will destroy our present understanding of marriage and you will be disturbed which I dont want now.
It will take some time for me to conclude and a write a topic. Whenever I come with the understanding I will definitely write it.
3) doing it for finding out a lifemate (not a mere mate) who will bound to you for eternity
Dear Kiran
Whether it is a mate or a life mate, find it yourself with your strength. A person without strength gives out Logic which I dont want you to do.
Coming to love marriage or arranged marriage, success of it is purely personal. You cannot comment on it.
Whatever you've said about love marriage might be true ten years before this date. The reason is people in Arranged marriage used to bind with each other because of their fear for society and the conditions were like that at that time.
Now the conditions are completely different and 'Nuclear Families' are the one to stay where more number of Arranged Marriages are going to fail from now on. This phenomena is already persistant.
4) talking about something without any logic isn't helping that in any way....
Dear Snigdha
The whole idea of this blog is to express myself so that people around me comment and help me to enlighten.
Thank you exactly for doing that.
For me enlightenment is to come out of all the reasons and logic we have given ourselves over generations.
All these things I am doing and this blog in particular is helping me a lot. This not helping me is what you thought is not the truth for me. This is actually helping me and you have given a logic or whatever you call it for yourself that this is not helping me.
See, this is the logic I am speaking about.
'Arranged marriage is a weakness' is a topic given to my thought process to attract viewers and their comments. Here the truth is Marriage and all the Why's and What's are the logics we have given. I am talking about all these logics to come out of these logics.
I dont know whether there is a logic in my thought process or not, all I know is I have to come out of all the logics we have given ourselves and come to a state of mind called NOTHING.
So this is my struggle to go there and all you people who are commenting are actually helping me.
P.S: I want you to comment on all my posts.
5) Confusing who.....
Dear Bharathi
I am not confusing anyone and am not trying for that because I am in a state of confusion and am thinking over that.
I am expressing all these just to get other point of views and so that I may come out of my confusions.
Dont expect me to give you the reasons in my Story named RYTHU BIDDA. This is just a story i've written from an inspiration i've quoted earier. I am just trying to write it as a Cinema Sript for a short movie.
Thank you very very much for your encouragement.
6) I would give a classic example which everyone can relate
Dear Prashanth
I will accept to the fact that you may many times cannot attract a particular person because of hell a lot of reasons. But if you say 'how many guys do you think can attract possible mates. And again I raise, Is attracting a person under one's control', this is absolutely I called Weakness.
As you've said, you will be attracted to so many possible mates. From all those can't you attract one. I'm not talking about attracting all those. If you say it's not in your control, you are absolutely accepting your weakness.
If you are not attracted to your mate or she towards you, why be a Couple.
I personally feel talking about 'Forcing Love' is bull shit.
I am very grateful to you for your time and value in your comment. I would expect the same from you everytime.
My Future Posts........
I am planning for some more posts in the near future with the following topics:
1) Experiance kills Creativity.
2) A Coup for Happiness.
3) Nihilism is nothing but Soonyathvam.
4) The Matrix ripped open.
I will be very happy with your comments, no matter what they are. Dont get offensed for my opinions because they are just my opinions.
I am planning to write short stories even in these blogs. One such story is:
1) Rythu Bidda
The concept of the story is based on:
-A Doctor's son is becoming a Doctor
-A Politician's son is becoming a Politician
-A Business Man's son is becoming a Business Man
-An Actor's son is becoming an Actor
Why a Farmer's son is not becoming a Farmer??????
I will post these in the near future. If anyone can suggest me on any topics or give me titles for stories, i will develop them and post them. I will be very happy for your help.
1) Experiance kills Creativity.
2) A Coup for Happiness.
3) Nihilism is nothing but Soonyathvam.
4) The Matrix ripped open.
I will be very happy with your comments, no matter what they are. Dont get offensed for my opinions because they are just my opinions.
I am planning to write short stories even in these blogs. One such story is:
1) Rythu Bidda
The concept of the story is based on:
-A Doctor's son is becoming a Doctor
-A Politician's son is becoming a Politician
-A Business Man's son is becoming a Business Man
-An Actor's son is becoming an Actor
Why a Farmer's son is not becoming a Farmer??????
I will post these in the near future. If anyone can suggest me on any topics or give me titles for stories, i will develop them and post them. I will be very happy for your help.
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